As I coach more frequently, I have been reflecting on the importance of self-management and the ability to tune into different energies while engaging with people. This awareness is valuable in coaching and also in all areas of life- including team management.
Now, what's all this talk about “energy” you might say, Essentially, it's about heightened awareness and a specific form of listening. In Co-active coaching, we discuss three different levels of listening:
Level 1: Tuned into myself, thinking about my response, often in problem-solving mode.
Level 2: Intensely focused on the other person, fully in the moment.
Level 3: Directed toward the other person, with a broader focus. I not only hear words but also pick up on body language, tone, hesitations, etc. It's like having sound effects to thoughts—a thud against a wall, a ding for a good idea, a straining or pulling. Level 3 is the sweet spot in coaching, providing rich information to the other person, as the body often conveys strong messages.
Starting your meetings with an awareness of Level 3 can be a significant asset and skill. Are team members depleted? Are you anxious? Is there heightened energy?
Two coaching tips that can seamlessly transition into effective leadership are:
1. Self-Management
Check in with yourself. How are you feeling? How is your energy? To lead effectively, consider these energy-shifting ideas:
🔥 Raise Your Energy:
Play upbeat music and dance or sing like no one is watching for 30-60 seconds
Do 20 jumping jacks
Stand up and stretch, focusing on chest and arm openers or dynamic stretches
Take a quick walk around the block
🧘Ground Your Energy:
Reflect or write down three things you are grateful for
Find a quiet spot and notice five things you see, four things you hear, three things you feel, two things you smell, and one thing you taste
Take three deep breaths (in for 4 counts, hold for 7 counts, out for 8 counts
Rub your fingers together and notice the sensation for 5-10 seconds
2. Clearing
Recently, during a workshop, a manager effectively implemented this practice for her team and it completely changed the energy of the room for the better. Essentially all it takes is a quick question ahead of launching into the agenda. Questions could be:
Is there anything you need to get off your chest or mention before we start?
Is there anything anyone wants to clear before we get going?
Is there anything you need from the group or from me before we get going?
This is common practice in coaching sessions and is doubly important as we navigate world conflict, tough economic times or everyday life. It’s not meant to be a long unpacking session or vent- but if someone is struggling or has something important on their mind- it can impact the whole group or meeting.
Try these simple coaching skills with yourself and your team, they can significantly enhance the effectiveness of meetings and conversations. Feel free to share, or comment with your own techniques!
✨ Coach Sara ✨
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